Traditional Dating vs Tinder
A Masculine Approach To Modern Dating:
Introduction:
Let’s face it – no properly masculine man wishes to be in the dating arena of 2024. Women plagued with social and modern media, body counts, and the normalization of egocentric entitlement have created a modern “monster” of femininity. 3rd wave feminism has weaponized potential partners who know they can “punch-out” of the work force (thanks to the family courts system) and take everything from a potential provider after putting out and bearing a child they may resent. It’s common in campfire conversations to hear the future leaders of our tribe declare ZERO interest in family building due to the aforementioned risk assessment. Rather than taking the MGTOW (Men Go Their Own Way) approach and throwing the baby out with the bath water, let’s focus on reasonable, potential solutions and alternatives. Let’s start with where we find potential mates and in a later article, focus on how to manage modern family building (because we must do it).
In today’s digital age, online dating has become the most popular way to meet potential partners. However, dating within a church community offers unique benefits that can foster deeper, more meaningful relationships. Here are SIX reasons why joining a local church and limiting your search parameters to an older, time tested method is highly preferred:
1. Shared Values and Beliefs Dating within a church ensures that both individuals share similar core values and beliefs. This common ground can lead to a stronger foundation for the relationship, as both partners are likely to have aligned life goals and moral compasses. One can’t begin to fathom the number of women between the ages of 18-25 who are active within the broader “church” and not on social media, don’t watch MTV, don’t care about politics and were likely homeschooled. Women who were raised reading theology and philosophy by parents with a common belief in an almighty creator.
2. Character and Integrity In a church setting, you have the opportunity to observe someone’s character and integrity over time. This visibility allows you to see how they interact with others, handle challenges, and live out their faith. Such insights are often harder to gauge through online profiles. Too often in modern “dating” men and women see each other intoxicated with lust and cheap drinks which leads to a victory for the enemy. Observing and getting to know someone without the common pitfalls of modern dating are a large benefit to a more secure future relationship.
3. Community Support Church communities often provide a supportive network of friends and mentors who can offer guidance and encouragement. This support system can be invaluable in navigating the ups and downs of a relationship, providing wisdom and accountability. These men and women have likely seen potential partners grow from child’s play to young womanhood, the reconnaissance gained from their collective perspective is invaluable in partner selection.
4. Spiritual Growth Dating within a church can also foster spiritual growth. Couples can participate in church activities together, such as Bible studies, worship services, and volunteer opportunities. These shared experiences can deepen their faith and strengthen their bond. Imagine attending a weekly “Men’s Breakfast” with a potential, future father-in-law and how much you could learn about the stability of his daughter prior to even expressing feelings to her.
5. Reduced Pressure The church environment can reduce the pressure often associated with dating. Instead of focusing solely on romantic (lustful) interests, individuals can build friendships and get to know each other in a more relaxed, communal setting.
6. Long-Term Commitment Church communities often emphasize the importance of long-term commitment and marriage. This focus can encourage couples to approach their relationship with a serious, intentional mindset, aiming for a lasting partnership with less risk, drama and heartache.
There are plenty of critiques to be made against today’s church, organized religion and the hypocrisy of the modern zealot – however, we must remember that just because there are more rodents in the woods, it doesn’t mean there aren’t more deer also. While online dating offers convenience and a broad pool of potential matches, it is clear that it is set up to allow selection based on promiscuity and good advertising. We are being fooled into swiping for our lusts rather than investigating for the future of our families and tribe. Dating within a church community provides a unique opportunity to build a relationship grounded in shared values, character, and spiritual growth. This approach can lead to a more fulfilling and enduring partnership and steer the ship back to the core values and promises which we know build the best parts of the world. The enemy wants you to either give up your commitment to as many women as possible (be a hoe) or throw out the idea of love all together. Stop being a lady and start being the man that the woman of your dreams is looking for.
